Fighting at Funerals

Fighting at funerals.  Why do funerals seem to bring out the worst in people.  It seems to  be the time you find out who has been holding grudges, who has been unforgiving, who has never talked to someone because they did something that was really meaningless. 

Why do people fight over such meaningless crap, why do we hold ill feelings over some stupid comment.  I mean who really tries to hurt other people with what they say.  Normally it is said accidently or inadvertently.  Then when we have a final celebration of someones life it all comes out.  Now there are some things that I can see could be hard to fogive.... if someone harms your child, or a spouse cheats on you, or someone robs you of all of your money, things like that. But seriously why does Aunt Martha still feel pissed of at her brother because he missed her daughters wedding or that cousin Betsy called her fat.  That kind of stuff is meaningless in the overall scheme of life and being petty and unforgiving just robs you and your friends of happiness.  Come on people get over it and realize what a joy it is to have family and friends, don't mess it up.